Through it all.
If you’ve been reading my posts, you’d know I love to list and record stuff I’d like to remember and keep for the days to come. I have around four months of summer break before law school commences. It has been three months and I’ve weathered a few things – a few things both within and beyond my control. And I’d love if you’d give me the privilege of sharing what I’ve learnt:
I’ve learnt the art of not giving up. The art of pressing on, no matter how great the challenge it is to do so.
I’ve learnt how to praise God in hard times, embracing the challenges, allowing them to mould me.
I’ve relearnt how we should never be a slave to two things; Facebook and our ego.
I’ve relearnt how I should never put my life on hold for a boy.
I’ve learnt how to always look on the brighter side of everything; that every cloud has a silver lining – even when the cloud is grey.
I’ve learnt how I should always do unto other what I want others to do unto me.
I’ve learnt to not be quick to judge; quick to gossip; quick to put people down when I’ve not known the other side of the story.
I’ve learnt that there’s always three sides to the story. This person, that person, and the truth.
I’ve learnt how to make lemonades when life gives u lemons – and sell them for profit.
I’ve learnt how to always be kind and love, even when people make it hard for you to do so.
I’ve learnt to always keep in mind that God died for the person sitting next to me too. And that has changed my life, and how I saw others.
I’ve learnt that if God can love someone like me, I can surely love those who are hard to love too.
I’ve learnt to be bullet proof, and only let the things that matter get a hold of my time and energy.
I’ve learnt to have a tunnel vision, focused on my goals and let nothing else distract.
I’ve learnt to always be positive towards criticisms and improve everyday, in areas I can improve on.
I’ve learnt also that instead of always taking what others say, I should have my own set of views too.
I’ve learnt that we always have to give our best in everything we do. (Even if its sweeping the floor – be the best damn sweeper.)
I’ve learnt to never allow anyone to leave from me not feeling happier, better.
I’ve learnt to always do good out of the sincerity of your heart. If you are not sincere about it, either you don’t do it or you FIND sincerity and do it.
I’ve learnt to never allow anyone to shake my grounds and my principles.
I’ve learnt to appreciate my mom and dad and respect them with love.
I’ve learnt my family deserves some of my time and I should learn to make time for them.
I’ve learnt that if I can’t really enjoy my holidays because I have alot on my plate, I have to learn to enjoy all that is on my plate.
I’ve learnt to always be on time and show up in life.
I’ve learnt how to throw myself into challenges and never be afraid to learn something new, even if that would mean I have to fail.
I’ve learnt that only I would know what makes me happy, and to not just follow my heart on things – but LEAD my heart.
I’ve learnt how to guard my heart; never wearing it on my sleeve anymore.
I’ve learnt that where pride is concerned with who is right, humility is concerned with what is right.
I’ve learnt that successful people are not derailed by their failures. They accept them as a normal part of the process.
I’ve learnt that people who are successful in life do not condemn themselves for failures. They accept it and move forward on a better footing.
I’ve learnt that self-confidence and believing in yourself is having the ability to grow past them, move forward, and learn from them.
I’ve learnt that if you learnt from your failures, you have not truly failed.
I’ve learnt that a winner is someone who steps out, fails, regroups and instead of beating himself up, learns from the mistake and tries again.
I’ve learnt that a winner is a good loser.
I’ve learnt we should always take chances. There are never failures, only lessons learnt.
I’ve learnt that we should always give back better than you are given.
I’ve learnt that there are so many things in life that make you happy. So why focus on the things that make you sad?
I’ve learnt to always put God ahead in everything you do, by committing it to Him at the very start. Somehow things are actually much more different when we do that. Not just the outcome, but our perceptions become different, in a better way.
I’ve learnt to keep in mind in everything I do, it should be a worship unto God. To do everything that will only glorify His name and speak of how great a God I have.
I’ve learnt that we should never play fair – never repay good for good and bad for bad. It will just destroy every relationship.
I’ve learnt that successful people move against the problem, and show love and respect to the other person at the same time.
I’ve learnt that successful people don’t hang on to bad stuff for long.
Yes, I’ve been through quite a bit these past few months. I stood alone at times. But I knew and was very sure about the choices I made – to live a righteous life. The temptations to succumb to being immature was great. But no temptation would be put before us that is far too great to overcome, says the Bible.
Instead of bitching and whining and blogging about the adversaries I have to overcome, I choose to blog about what I’ve learnt from them. For me, that’s a much better choice.
So if you asked me, would I change anything? Do I wish that all these things never happened? I’d tell you no. I’m glad it all happened, within His divine purpose and plan for my life. I’m glad I took everything well and seized every opportunity to make a difference. It may be a little difference, but I’m glad I did. I don’t regret anything. I’m thankful I can hold my head up high and know that I did it all His way. Besides, through everything I weathered, I was still ever so blessed with God-sent people to walk beside me, making it so much easier.
Lemme just count my blessings here.
When I was working in SL&B, I was blessed to have my colleague send me to and fro from Subang, not having to take the awful public transport. Not everyday. I had the privilege of asking the head of the Intellectual Property Department brief my fellow moot friends on IP law. I made new friends, and learnt new things we would want to learn when in a law firm.
When I was mooting for Law Asia National Rounds, I may not be able to moot to save my life, but I’ve learnt so much on how to be a better mooter. I’m blessed also with an amazing coach which really prepared us and took time everyday from the morning till evening listening to us moot. I’m blessed that he was always there to push us to our very best. I’m blessed to have great and smart fellow ‘co-mooters’ to work with. I’m blessed to even be on the team.I’m blessed to have my family come see me moot and having them being proud of me. That’s all that really mattered to me anyway. I felt like a winner. And I’m very happy for the winners (the other team from Taylors) which emerged as champion – they really deserved it with all the hard work they’ve put up with.
When I was sitting for my piano exams, even though I really sucked, I’m blessed to have a piano teacher that told me it was okay, and just move on. I’m blessed she believed in me and allowed me to take on Grade 7 from Grade 5. I’m blessed that she grills my skills to aiming for distinctions. I’m blessed my parents pay for my classes, allowing me to play the piano. I’m blessed my parents don’t complain about how awful my playing is. And above all, I’m blessed to have my dad standing by me, telling me its okay if I failed. When I was at the edge and wanting to give up after screwing my piano concert the very next day, he told me I shouldn’t. He told me I should be a fighter, keep on fighting. That itself is the reason why I’m never giving up.
And now when I’m attaching at C & C, I’m blessed to have met amazing people there, like Melanie – which I feel like I’ve known forever. She’s absolutely generous in her advices (and in treating me to a Japanese lunch). I’m blessed to have bubbly friendly chambee friends there. I’m blessed to be able to work under the very famous Edmund Bon and given the privilege and entrusted to draft a submission for a real case. I’ve been blessed to meet new lawyer friends and a french attachee (yay I have friends all over the world). I’m blessed to be given the privilege to write an article in the loyarburok website. I’m blessed to be trained by great lawyers like Chris Leong and EB – hopefully I can be like them one day; not afraid to stand up and make a difference. I’m blessed that everyone around me (even the tea lady) in the firm is ever so nice. I’m blessed to be able to speak to the founder of the firm, and having follow him to court for the infamous Daphne Iking’s case, where I met his two granddaughters that came to watch as well. And not to mention, mummy is very proud of me. She’s worked in this firm before and very glad I got to work there; she always speaks so highly on the firm and the founder of the firm. Oh and I’m glad I am very much more familiar on how to go about public transports now! I’m also blessed to have mummy pick me to the bus stand every morning and from, every evening. I’m blessed she wakes up to make orange juice for me and breakfast before I head to work. I’m blessed my dad woke up early just to send me to the Duta courts last week. I’m blessed to be able to have lunch with my aunt which works nearby.
Yes I love my family a great deal, as you can see.
I do hope you do not have to learn from your mistakes, like I did – because it will take alot from you. Learn from what I’ve been through. Don’t wait until you have to learn it the hard way. As I have been inspired, I hope I have inspired. I’ve learnt and grew and I hope to take all that I’ve learnt not only to Year 2 of law school, but to the rest of my life.
I pray the good thing that comes out from this, the best blessing that I could ever have, is for me to bless others by what I’ve learnt.
Again, you might not understand half the things I’ve mentioned. I’m glad I had the privilege of sharing this with you and I appreciate that you read my writings from time to time. But do keep in mind that I blog solely for myself, wanting to store whatever I’ve learnt in life, so I may never forget them. So I can see if I’m growing the right direction in life.
This is entirely for me, and not for anyone else.
And of course for the big guy upstairs that has always watched over me through it all. Thank you, Lord.